Typically, men feel a great deal of sexual frustration in their relationship. Here’s why…
HOW WOMEN LOSE INTEREST IN SEX
Every night he and his woman go to bed, he is hoping and praying she will want sex. He turns to her but she rejects his advances. A pattern has been set.
Going to bed means he is going to want sex. Going to bed means sex is assumed. She knows sex is a given. She is only going to do it if she feels like it, but nothing has been done to make her feel like it. This is boring for her, and frustrating for him. Even worse… it continually reduces her interest in sex.
TOO LITTLE – TOO LATE
A big mistake that men make is they wait until going to bed to start foreplay. That gets boring for women. She doesn’t want sex to be assumed. And worse, it makes her feel objectified; she feels like she is perceived as just a body, not as a person.
Here’s the thing most guys don’t understand… You can’t wait until going to bed to start seducing your woman. Once in bed, it is too late.
Instead, you must always be seducing her. Seduction goes on all the time. This is done with “Mental Foreplay”. Throughout the day you must use mental foreplay to keep her at least ‘warm’ for what might come later.
This concept of “mental foreplay” is the built on three important truths:
- Women want foreplay
- Sexuality for women is (almost) entirely mental
- Everything between you and your woman is sex
WOMEN CRAVE FOREPLAY!
You’ve heard this before. It has been said countless times. Every guy knows it, but so few men do it. Women complain her man just goes straight for intercourse without even warming her up.
But here’s the key learning of this article, if you get nothing else get this — Don’t wait until going to bed to start foreplay! I’ll give you some ideas on how to do this in a minute.
FOR WOMEN SEX IS (ALMOST) ENTIRELY MENTAL
It has been said… for men, sex is sex, but for women, sex is everything else. There’s a lot of truth to that. For a woman, sex must include so much more than just intercourse. For her, it is very much mental and emotional. Consider the fact men download porn while women read 400 page romance novels.
This does not mean women aren’t horny. They are horny. More precisely, they are very sexual. More so than men, and far more so than most men can comprehend. Sexuality for a woman is vitally important.
Of course, we are considering the mentally and emotionally healthy woman (which you should restrict yourself to). A few women of very low self-esteem or emotional trauma will not respond in healthy ways, though deep down inside they truly are sexual. It’s just they will behave in ways that seem to defy logic.
EVERYTHING IS SEX
When I teach this concept to couples, the women get it immediately, and the men scratch their heads. So if this seems like a stretch, follow my logic below.
First, let’s define some terms here. Most people think of foreplay, followed by sex. But in actuality, foreplay is sex. When people use the term sex, they usually mean intercourse. But intercourse is only one of the many things included in sex.
Anything you and your woman do to each other while naked in the bedroom is sex. But the fact is you actually don’t need to be naked, and you don’t have to be in the bedroom. You could be fondling her while you two are at the movies. So really sex is anything that you and her do to stimulate each others genitals.
Then again you don’t have to be stimulating her genitals. You could be sitting with her at a restaurant and simply command her to have an Instant Orgasm on Command (yes, it is possible… stage hypnotists do this all the time). Orgasms are sex. So sex is basically anything that sexually stimulates her.
Of course there are many things which can sexually stimulate her. You could be narrating a sexual fantasy to her and stimulate her sexually. So simply narrating a fantasy is sex.
You could be telling her how you are going to make mad passionate love to her when you get her home. And it stimulates her sexually. So simply mentally preparing her for sex is sex.
There are many ways you mentally prepare her for sex. You mentally prepare her for sex when you tell her she looks beautiful to you. So by definition that could be considered sex.
I could go on and on, but you get the point… basically everything is sex!
All of the things discussed above are done using “Mental Foreplay”. Inside the bedroom, foreplay is physical. Outside the bedroom it must be mental.
A woman once said, “If a man can make love to my mind, he can have me.” She is articulating the mental aspects of female sexuality.
This is what I refer to as “mental sex”. This goes back to my concept that everything is sex. Furthermore, foreplay is sex, so it follows that “mental foreplay” is in fact “mental sex”.
Backing all the way up, we see that mental sex begins with seduction.
SEDUCTION GOES ON ALL THE TIME
You should at all times be seducing your woman in some manner. It may be subtle, it may be obvious. But it must always be taking place.
Women absolutely love being seduced. They love the way it feels. They feel beautiful and sexy. They feel desired. They get to feel all the things that women love to feel. And it results in them wanting to celebrate being a sensuous woman.
Even in an ongoing relationship, a woman wants to be seduced by her man. Always keep an air of sensuality. When your woman thinks of you, she must think thoughts of being seduced.
EXAMPLE OF MENTAL FOREPLAY
You can even do this when you two are apart. A great way is to send her text messages. They may be innocent messages with sexual innuendos, or they may be blatantly sexual. Here is a generic example. It starts innocent and works up to blatant.
Let’s say you have been dating your woman for 3 months, and you have been giving her pleasure beyond anything she has ever known. You two were together Thursday night, and are going to be together again Saturday night. Friday, while she is at her work and you are at your work, you text message her:
You: Hi Beautiful. You looked so beautiful to me last night.
Her: 🙂 You looked pretty hot yourself!
You: You felt so wonderful in my arms, Baby.
Her: It felt wonderful to be held by you, Baby.
You: I cannot wait to see you tomorrow, Baby.
Her: I can’t wait to see you too! I still haven’t decided what to wear!
You: I can’t wait to see what you have selected. You always look so beautiful to me.
Her: You always make me feel beautiful, Baby.
You: You always make me want you so badly, Baby.
Her: I want you too, Baby, badly. I’ve been thinking about you all day!
You: Have you been thinking about how badly you want me to make love to you?
Her: Yes! You: Tell me how badly you need me to make love to you.
Her: Baby, I so badly need you to make mad passionate love to me!
This is so easy to do, and it’s fun. Imagine how much more fun work would be if both she and you got messages like this during the day. And imagine how great your date will be that night, especially if you keep the mental foreplay going ALL day and into the night.
This is powerful stuff. And I’ve only met a handful of men who do this kind of thing with their woman, so when you do it, you will instantly distance yourself from all the other boring men in her life.
A seduced woman can be sexually aroused just as quickly as a man. In fact, even faster when she has been continually and properly seduced using Mental Foreplay
- Never make your woman do anything sexual, instead bring her sexuality out in her.
- Never push your woman to do something, instead always lead your woman mentally to want it.
- Lead her mind, and let her body beg to follow.
- Make her hungry for it, and then when you feed her, satisfy her beyond what she even knew she was capable of, thus leaving her even more hungry for the next time